How much is too much...
There was an era a few decades back when adults who got married had clear areas of demarcation when it came to responsibility sharing. This sounded sensible from the point of view of the management jargon of Core-Competency. Let me explain...
Men were traditional bread-winners who were supposed to bring in the money while women were expected to manage home-affairs. What happened as a consequence was that men hardly got to explore the kitchen department and it was not an unusual tale for husbands to eat out when their wives were out-of-station. In fact many relished the break from routine and also the chance to savour some new delicacies dished out at hotels. The woman side story was not pretty different. Since they hardly got to interact in the commercial world outside, they found their sudden trips to be unusual and difficult to manage without their husbands by their side. This prompted many wives to get back home at the earliest.
Hence we had a situation when marriages often worked due to the inherent dependancies of life-partners on one-another for complementary competencies.
Now the pendulum has swung a little further. Both men and women are more financially independant. Their job postings have often made both of them to stay alone for sufficently long periods for both sexes to be more self-made in various departments like cooking, shopping, budgeting, house-keeping etc. Hence the boundaries between traditional men-only and women-only jobs have been shrinking. As a consequence, there is a less steep learning curve in terms of responsibility sharing. But the flipside of this independence has been that there has not been a real strong felt need for a life-partner nowadays barring biologial needs( do I need to elaborate??).
But does marriage merely work for satisfying biological needs. Hence, the plausible explanation for increase in divorce rates as discussed in this article here.
Men were traditional bread-winners who were supposed to bring in the money while women were expected to manage home-affairs. What happened as a consequence was that men hardly got to explore the kitchen department and it was not an unusual tale for husbands to eat out when their wives were out-of-station. In fact many relished the break from routine and also the chance to savour some new delicacies dished out at hotels. The woman side story was not pretty different. Since they hardly got to interact in the commercial world outside, they found their sudden trips to be unusual and difficult to manage without their husbands by their side. This prompted many wives to get back home at the earliest.
Hence we had a situation when marriages often worked due to the inherent dependancies of life-partners on one-another for complementary competencies.
Now the pendulum has swung a little further. Both men and women are more financially independant. Their job postings have often made both of them to stay alone for sufficently long periods for both sexes to be more self-made in various departments like cooking, shopping, budgeting, house-keeping etc. Hence the boundaries between traditional men-only and women-only jobs have been shrinking. As a consequence, there is a less steep learning curve in terms of responsibility sharing. But the flipside of this independence has been that there has not been a real strong felt need for a life-partner nowadays barring biologial needs( do I need to elaborate??).
But does marriage merely work for satisfying biological needs. Hence, the plausible explanation for increase in divorce rates as discussed in this article here.
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